First things first: What on earth is even an OK age to start dating?It may come as a disappointment to parents that there are no rules here.If the child does not have a legitimate point to make, they are simply not ready to date — and you have less work to do to justify your point of view." If you think your child is too young to date, it's important to communicate your reasons for this rather than just saying, "I won't allow this." "It’s important to process the reason so your kid doesn't view dating as a 'bad' thing," says Kitley. Use an open and honest direct approach explaining your reasons why and suggesting what age it would be OK to date." For example, if your kid is barely passing their classes, you might want them to improve their grades before they start dating (not as a punishment, but because spending time on dates would take time away from their studies).Or you might want your child to help out more with household chores to prove they're mature enough to date.
"Teens simply will not respect your authority if your reasons seem ridiculous," says Rhodes.
With so many modern dating concepts out there, it can be hard to keep up.
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As part of an open, honest, productive conversation about dating, take the chance to explain exactly what you need to see to know your child is mature enough (and ready) to date.
Prepare yourself for the "but everyone else is doing it" argument, and don't let guilt sway you if you genuinely believe your child is too young to date. "A peer's parents might have different requirements for dating than your family.