Let her know you're not looking for a girlfriend around the same time you'd tell her you had a terminal disease.A good rule of thumb is to always act as though you're having an affair.It was jarring to find out that our great aunt had basically spent her youth as the whore of Babylon. You're going to date Veronica _and _her best friend A lot of my friends, male and female, followed this kind of "Medieval Courtly Love, With Blowjobs" model well into college, like knights and ladies with bitterly divorced parents.(Although, I guess she broke for Sunday, so there was that.)I don't know if it's because of Cameron Crowe movies or disease panic or protracted adolescence, but my generation believed that when you really liked somebody, you should like them solely and exclusively, even obsessively. But for those of us still single, relad ideas about monogamy and the facility of the Internet have produced a new golden age of slutty aunts.
I'd just gone through a particularly harrowing breakup (it involved the bitter division of Wesley Snipes film bootlegs on VHS, to provide both historical and raw emotional context).
“When a woman dates more than one person at a time, she is less vulnerable because, should something go wrong with any one relationship, she can fall back on another,” says Levine.
Women are planners, and those who think ahead enjoy backup plans.
Just like we prefer to have an extra umbrella in the bottom of the closet and more than one pair of jeans, so too are we more able to relax when we have more than one dating partner.
First off, if things do end with one of them, one can “rationalize that the relationship really wasn’t that important to her, without a blow to her self-esteem,” notes Levine.