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I was like “Creepy” is a word that comes up a lot when I’m having an honest discussion with men about their feelings on their sexualities.

In fact, it is so ubiquitous, I think you should just go ahead and assume most men feel like they are creepy for getting turned on, or probably felt that way at some point in their lives.

Society doesn’t allow for the blame-absolving narrative of “that girl turned me on so much it wasn’t my fault” when it comes to a fat chick because society pretends fat chicks aren’t hot.

That’s where all this male anger at big women comes from; it’s not because men don’t desire them, I experienced some version of this the other night.

For me, I think this was the most telling quote: And, ok, that’s a good explanation for why he doesn’t say “I had a threeway last week,” or “I haven’t had sex in over a year,” but it doesn’t explain why men don’t say “touching her breasts made me really horny.” However, I think that’s covered in to openly talk about how turned on he got. Because society labels men creepy when they are open about their sexual feelings.

And, I think because men are too ashamed to claim ownership of their sexual feelings, It’s telling that gay men have body image issues more than lesbians. Usually instead of saying “I am turned on by that woman,” a man will say “that woman is hot.” The first phrasing places the locus of control within his own body (aka, in a way, making it “his fault” if he gets turned on), the second phrasing places the locus of control within the woman’s body (making it “her fault” if he gets turned on.) And, he will be inclined to do the second because him get horny, and zomg she was SO HOT it totally wasn’t his fault.

I also think this is why men don’t write about their sex lives.

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