Make sure all your photos aren’t catching you in the same pose with the same “having my photo taken” smile.
Change up your outfits (she particularly warns men of this); mix up the activities you show yourself doing, so it doesn’t look like you have limited interests; make eye contact with the viewer in at least a couple of photos (and sunglasses in only one photo, if any); smile; use your pets if you have ‘em.
I have noticed the following dating profile about a month ago, and I decided to post it here with very minor changes, as I consider this the most interesting and overall – the best female online dating profile I have seen so far, or at least one of the very best.
Some would consider this profile to be too negative and opinionated, but I strongly believe that “playing it safe” is not the right way to go when it comes to online dating.
Also, introverts tend to be pretty good at expressing ourselves in writing, which means we can make a good first impression given the opportunity.
But you’ll only get the opportunity if your profile works for you, which is why Lisa Hoehn wrote .
Your photos should add up to a picture of your life.
A head shot, of course (but not your professional mugshot); a “personality” shot that shows your style; an action shot of you doing something you like; a shot with friends, to show that you have them; and a full-body shot because…well, because people want to know.
Online dating is an established fact of modern life, with sites from Tinder to Christian Mingle offering options for all kinds of daters.
Choose your photos strategically: Hoehn recommends a minimum of four photos—and she cites research from e Harmony that found that users with four or more photos receive the most messages.
But, she adds, any more than seven and you might come across as self-absorbed.
Be strategic about picking a username: In this situation, sex doesn’t sell. Hoehn suggests puns and clever wordplay (Last Man Camping for an outdoorsman, for example); pop culture references (Not Bradley Cooper or No Sleep Since Brooklyn); or just something silly and absurd (Birds With Shoes). As comfortable in old jeans as you are in heels and a dress? Do you like cuddling by a crackling fire and long walks on the beach? Focus on you: Everything you say in your profile should be about you. Tell the world why rather than explaining what Buddhism is about. How are your conservative values reflected in the way you live? You want it to sound like you’re chatting over coffee, not presenting your resume. People probably won’t read a long profile, and you’ll come across as self-absorbed and like you might be the dreaded first-date blowhard.
Instead of just labeling yourself as an introvert, talk about what that means to you, specifically. Be conversational and concise: Try reading your profile aloud. Be positive and confident, not hangdog or cocky: Talk about what you do like, not what you don’t.