I desire my husband and no other man) Dear Jazz, Your husband’s biggest problem isn’t that he’s a loser who will most certainly cheat on you one of these days (although an argument can certainly be made).
Again, Jazz, I’m not blindly defending lecherous men – nor encouraging this behavior in general.I’m going to take this moment to strike a hard line in defense of LYING. Because right now, ladies and gentlemen, you are hearing a first-hand account of the devastation wreaked by a man who can’t help but to TELL THE TRUTH. Where your husband comes up incredibly short – as if he were somewhat autistic – in his ability to HIDE his attraction to other women for your sake. And my sentiments, controversial though they may seem, remain the same. Which is why comparing your attraction to other men is irrelevant.Because, to be perfectly blunt with you, Jazz, his friends are 100% right. Leering is somewhat accepted among men, and, to a degree, even encouraged…. He was raised in a Southern feminist household and was taught ultimate respect for women. I ain’t arguing with it.) But what my friend failed to understand when we were drinking and woman-watching in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina was WHY we did it.I’m pointing out that it happens, it’s common, and it requires a lot of rewiring to get men to be sensitive to women when they’re accustomed to being boorish around other men.One other point: talking about other women is also your husband’s way of staying sane in a monogamous relationship (monogamy being a choice, but not a natural state).Unfortunately, while he should be letting off steam to his friends exclusively, he’s including you in on his act – possibly to absolve his guilt.It’s foolish, destructive and short-sighted, no doubt about it. I am 26 years old and my husband is 12 years older than me. The problem is that at the end of the day when he tells me about his daily class events, he goes on and on about this hot, extremely hot, f#$$g hot, sultry looking girl in one of his classes…He is very nice to me and always tells me how beautiful I am and how lucky he is to have me. He seems to know what to say to me most of the times. His friends tell me how “he is married, but not dead” and “there is nothing wrong with noticing other women”!! He told me that I was beautiful and very sexual, but never sultry. I AM a jealous person, but I try to control my jealousy.You didn't put closure on the previous relationship and so your past has come back to literally haunt you.So seven years into your marriage and you are still pining for your ex.