I think that my family may be in the minority (no pun intended) in that, we didn't ascribe to the culturally ascribed norms of what we were supposed to do/be because we are black.
On the flip-side, some of the people who grew up in the same area as me, are totally different from me culturally.
That being said: who knows who I'll end up with. I completely understand what you mean but I'm a person who honestly, identify culturally as an American; so I'm always amazed when people write me off because of their preconceived fear of our "culture differences."I'm not meaning to be flippant, but growing up in a black household, there weren't many things that my family did different from of my white friends.Especially since we've all been seeing the same things for such a long time now.I'm black, atheist, vegetarian/almost vegan, and studying a STEM field (chemical engineering), so it's harder for me to find black men who share common interest with me. Rather, once black men find out who I am beneath the surface, they lose interest in me--quickly.I'll also say that in my area in Canada there isn't really the same prejudice against black culture as there is in America. Sometimes I wonder if they way I put my words together seem masculine since I've had people assume I'm a guy on several occasions when conversing online.There are significantly less black citizens up here, but there isn't the same prejudice against them up here (unfortunately that prejudice is shifted to the native americans instead.) That sucks that you get the shaft from both sides. Or maybe it's the ambiguity in the words I choose...I just hate it when people assume they know what to expect from me just from my appearance alone because they're usually wrong.Some families have strong bonds with their ethnic identities and it shows in their traditions etc.Of course that wouldn't immediately deter me from dating someone of a different race, but it would be something I might worry about in the back of my mind if we hit it off.Likely women that are writing you off immediately are doing so because they just aren't attracted to you, but citing cultural issues sounds less harsh. For reference, I'm a woman :)But yes, I get what your saying because I've heard the same stories as well.I’ve been happily married to a black woman (as a white man) for roughly 15 years now.No drama, no affairs; just the two of us, trying to navigate life in a world stuck on crazy.