From my experience you can go by NOTHING written on a dating site profile. but you will get better and better at meet and greets and sizing them up as you go !!! as it is all impersonal until you meet and greet and the right one shows up and it will happen and you will know because everything will be open. and actually meet that person before forming opinions. You have demonstrated you can neither think of unique questions nor articulate them. in the event that said female is INTENTIONALLY putting forth such a pathetic query, so see how I handle it... Second, I'm going to disagree with the "that's what dating is for" part of your opening post.
I liked to do a short phone call of about 20 minutes before meeting.. It's all impersonal until you meet someone who you share mutal chemistry with. Get those thoughts you have out of your head because the players will be found out when you start meeting these people. he will give you his full name and other details that are verfiable. That person will be open and share openly as will you... Use your meet and greet to verify profile info........ then by all means, not only am I going to "fail," I'm going to fail willingly. Do NOT waste my precious survived-two-tours-of-Iraq life by holding back until an actual date. "no."If you hold men to highers standards, you'll meet a better class of men. I'm not willing to put up with women who I don't find intellectually appealing just for the sake of companionship. Unless I am paying a shrink 200 bucks an hour and that's one of the first things out of their mouth.
I could tell a lot from speaking to someone over the phone. Actually, there have been a few guys who put x amount of years in a relationship, and when asked about it, they said that wasn't actually true and "I dunno, it just sounded good to put"! I'm sure there are those who play games and do that but you can easily weed them out by going on meet and greets and meeting in real life. Online they can be a lot of things, but when you meet in real life, this is not the case. With a meet and greet and mutal attraction and interest. The online dating sites are just introductory services............. assess attraction, common goals and interests..you can understand that persons perspective and who they are. "I'm a brainless twit, so let me just ask you an essay-like question and I'll pick out whatever tidbits of information matter to me." Really? Ma'am, when I get that kind of question, that's that. If you can't communicate well-articulated thoughts in writing and show me you have enough intelligence to make it worth the time out of my LIFE to meet you... spell, punctuate, demonstrate your mastery of the English language... I judge women on this website by their appearance, their character and, most assuredly, by their writing ability. Otherwise it's one of those immediate red flag dealbreaker things that showcase what kind of person I am dealing with and I laugh in their face and move on. But you can shit in one hand and fill the other up with people that will do what you want without you having to tell them or move on and find someone that sees things the way you do and see which one fills faster.
My ideal was to meet and greet within a week and if there was mutual attttaction to begin the weeding out process with questions about lifestyle, goals and all aspects of that persons life... Might help in your situation if you state you like to MEET and GREET as some guys may take meeting soon as a formal "date" and no one wants to do that with someone they have never met in real life. I don't see why a meet and greet ca't work for you too. Lots of the less than desirables will try to develop an online relationship, hoping you will overlook things about them. Also a few who put that they were students when they really were unemployed. All the games and other online dating site BS DIES with meet and greets. You have to ask questions as to understand that persons positiomn and perspectives, once you asess if there is mutual attraction.might help for you to say you want to meet and greet, not date. best to you Well, yeah, that's why I don't like having long, drawn-out email conversations, I'd rather meet them and gauge their personality and get to know them that way. and can just start spewing it on command, but there's a lot to "me" and I have NO IDEA where to start or what in the ____ a woman expects me to tell her when she asks such an ill-conceived question. then don't be surprised when I have NO interest in meeting you in person. That's kind of vague."Meet right away" is going to mean different things to different people.
But as you lie there unconscious, I may tell you a story about that time I eviscerated a guy for asking me what my favorite movie was". Tells them everything they need to know, and they learn to never ask such inane questions in the future.
This way you don't have too many awkward meet and greets.Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... tch if I don't type out an essay of my whole life story or say, "Isn't that what a date is for"?Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. In my opinion, you should be able to tell if you'd like to meet a person by what they've written on their page, and then part of the first date or meeting is getting to know them and learning more about them.I think it's an open ended question that shifts all the effort to replier. I try to be more specific with my dialogue (their profession, any similar hobbies we share, etc.) which is why I avoid profiles without any real personal info. You did it, I'm so proud of you...okay, next week we're going to get your whole foot in the water!And until that time we are going to sit here and talk about how great you are, and how hard it was to get that toe in the water, and the battles of your life you had to overcome in order to get here, and past attempts, and how you hope to feel one day by swimming."i don't see how telling anyone this is relevant, if you're willing to act in your own interest.Tell me about yourself....a question or demand that basically ends all conversation for me.The person doesn't have communication skills or doesn't want to take the time to have a real conversation, perhaps they have an agenda? and there is nothing wrong with that, it's just how things red, perspectives can vary a great deal... I have found the best profiles often the worst people you could meet, You have to take things with a grain of salt....Sometimes I fell that they're messaging all kinds of other people and they just say that to buy themselves time. You keep meeting and greeting until someone comes up where there is mutual attraction... Dates, first meets, meet n greet, whatever you wanna call it!! :)I learned long ago, before POF, to not get wrapped up in this online or on-the-phone persona because too many times you build this imaginary person in your head and are let down in person. And of course some people aren't going to care what you want. IMO you have to realize that the majority of people aren't here to date, just attention. If they weren't scared they'd be out trying new things and meeting new people. If they wanted to swim they'd go to the lake, or a big pool, jump in and say "fck yeah!It's cool to talk to multiple people, I do it too, but it's just so... Maybe instead of "impersonal", "lazy" is a more suitable word. )OP: I'm going to agree with you and disagree with you. "But people like the safety of online so it's more like the kiddie pool where they want to sit and put arm floaties on, swim goggles, cap, scuba tank, and standby zodiac rescue boat, and have you sit there and say "okay, one more toe, that's it, that's it, that's a good boy/girl, yes you are, ooooo you're so brave, look at that one toe, yaaaaay!Interviewers will pick up on those aspects they want to learn more about and will ask you questions to get further information. Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc.